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At 6:17pm on July 7, 2008, SarahNewton said…
I know it hurts and you are doing the right thing. You need to give her space and time. She is not a fool and will figure out herself what is best to do. Just keep communicating with her without putting the pressure on her and it will work itself out.
Hang in there

Sarah
At 5:44pm on July 7, 2008, Darla said…
I sent her a 2 page email Thursday. I poured out my heart and opened up to her. I asked her to give it time to make sure she is sure this is what she wants to live with her dad. I invited her to the lake w/us this past weekend, she did not respond or go. She did finally respond only to tell me she thinks she better off their and can't talk to me. That I treat her like she was on a leash, that was only 4 days of her punishment before she went to her dad's for summer visit. She got no punishment but bribes instead to get her to stay. He & his girlfriend gave her back her phone and computer privileges like she did nothing wrong. Not to mention have been buying her stuff, taking her to eat doing things they normally don't do and encouraging her with this boy next door. I know it's to get her to move in. Last Monday I made her a dentist apt. that her dad's girlfriend took her too. Her dad told me we need to change the custody papers, I did not answer him and got him off the phone and it had only been 3 weeks then. So I’m lost as to what to do. She won’t talk to me, but at least she is somewhat talking to me threw emails, it’s a start. I only pray she comes home before its made permant and I know her dad he’s already working on that. Now what else can I do, give her space and time? It just hurts so much to not be able to see my daugther or even talk to her :(
At 7:52pm on July 4, 2008, SarahNewton said…
Darla

Wow what a challenging situation. You need to put this right with her and let her know how you feel. If she will not speak with you could you write to her or leave a voice recording?

You have to give her time here and be very very honest.

What could be one small step you could take this week to re-connect with her?
At 7:31pm on July 3, 2008, Darla said…
I was going through old emails came across this page again. My daughter 15 has taken a turn for the worse she failed 4 classes and is now in summer school. In addition I found 3 cigs in her room plus there is more, I blew up handled it all wrong. I then took away all her privillages, she was home for 4 days went to stay w/her dad for 2 weeks and has been gone for a month. Will not speak to me and is telling everyone she is moving in w/her dad. It had been 3 weeks and her dad is already telling me we need to chang the court orders. He tells me she wants to live their & has for a long time, this is news to me since she and his girlfriend do not get along most of the time. In additon to this their is a boy who lives next door to her dad she is now dating(I found out through her friends). I have been a emotional roller coater and no clue what to do.. I feel like I failed her. I've been doing a lot of thinking & things have not been the same since my mother past away Dec 2006, she lived with us, I took care of her. I kindof shut down some, I think I drove her away. Now she will not even talk to me, what should I do. Totally lost here...
At 10:19pm on March 12, 2008, SarahNewton said…
Hi Darla

Gosh a lot there....talk to me about the trust......seems to be a big thing..

Sarah

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Hometown:
CC TX
About Me:
I've been a single parent since 2003, not much help with the dad. Was with my kids dad for 16 1/2 yrs. It's a daily battle with my 2 kids. I work, try and take care of kids, animals, house, etc. I am just am overwhelmed.
About my teenager:
Daughter 14 will be 15 in 2months. She is lazy, major attitude, yells at her brother and me. She is keeping things from me, etc. I'm worried about what she may get herself into.

Son 11 has ADHA he is a bit of a handful with temper, focus and the fighting with his sister.
The one question I would like to ask Sarah.
My kids to get along, stop the fighting with each other and me. My daughters attitude and keeping things from me. Trust issues!
My biggest challenge.
To get my kids to stop fighting, to get along. To stop the arguing with me. To get my kids to help me. To stop the back talking, yelling. To get my daughter open up.
 
 

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