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- Hometown:
- Bath, united Kingdom
- About Me:
- A mum of two teenagers. I am a psychologist and a parent coach and run UK Parent Coaching.
- About my teenager:
- Fantastic teens, but sometimes it can be a bit trying!
- My biggest challenge.
- Not shouting when angry
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Just let him know you love him care about him and do not want him to live on the streets, however what is happening is happening because he has broke an agreement that you had made together.
You are doing the right thing here if he can show that he can stick to an agreement and act in a responsible manner then you are willing to re-negotiate.
If you ahve given in before he will expect this again and may be why he is bringing in the big guns.
Stick to your agreement here. I never said it was pain free :-) When he knows you will not given in he will get the message. Just make sure that he knows you love him and care about him and that this is merely about a broken agreement which he agreed to and not him as a person.
Give him a list of choices that he can make
i.e. He can make an agrement about a curfew or he can choose not to howver in choosing not to he is not showing he can be responsible.
Hope that helps?
If you have a copy of the book read through the respect chapter again.
I am strugglilng with my son. Basically he has broken his agreement (which we negotiated together).
The most serious thing is that he says he will drop out of school and live on the streets rather than live with us and our middle class ways - which he rejects. He will do this unless we give in to his demands - see below.
He will not accept or acknoledge any curfew or even come home at all - as he wants to "get wasted", that the whole point of going out.
He wants to buy a moped (with his own money that he earned over the summer - we are taking care of it). However, we agreed the money £500, would only be released in small amounts monthly- if he stuck to his contract. If not, we will give it to him when he reaches 18 - we know he could easily spend it all on drugs and drink).
He wants to leave school (he is 16) and go to colleage in september instead - that is ok with us.
We are worried about him living on the streets but don't want to give in to his demands - we would re-negotiate with him when if he shows resonsbility to stick to his agreement - but he refuses to do this at all.
Help!
It would be great to see you there if you can make it howver I do have three FREE downloads on the homepage that may help too :-)
Sarah
Great to have you here! You want to get the free audio course on my website http://www.sarahnewton.com it will help with the screaming :-)